Protecting our children from abuse – The PANTS rule

I read this article earlier today and it brought a tear to my eye.

This is something that always plays at the back of my mind – is my daughter safe? Am I doing everything possible as parent to make sure she is well protected? Which is why when I read about the PANTS campaign I just had to blog about it! I know it is something a lot of parents do already (and I’m possibly late to the PANTS campaign rule!) but for people like me that think oh my daughter is too young, well she isn’t! The difference between 2 and 3 is 365 days! So there’s no such thing as being too early to start practicing these rules.

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The statistics carried out by NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children) states that 90% of sexually abused children were abused by people they knew. This is a shocking fact but honestly, when you think about it, it does make sense. How often are children in contact with strangers on their own? Which is once again why we have to be extra careful and vigilant…

There was also something I read in the Daily Mail comments that I thought was interesting:

“One thing you should all remember, how you will react is how your child will be affected. Start screaming , crying etc, and you will mark your kid for life. Your reaction is more important then the act!!! therefore, react in a cool manner next to you child. Punish the attacker, but let you child go unscathed, in time, they will forget the act and will not carry on a trauma.”

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It’s so true! Sometimes we as parents over-react! God forbid that such a think should happen to any of our children but if ever we find ourselves in a similar situation how we handle it can and will go a long way. I don’t know about them forgetting about the trauma but they at least grow up knowing the attacker was wrong and they did not in any single way help or encourage such a person.

In summary, the rule broken down to –

P – Private parts are private

A – Always remember your body belongs to you

N – No means NO!

T – Talk about secrets that upset you

S – Speak up, someone can help

For more information about this campaign you can read about it here.

I just pray to God every single day for the strength and wisdom to be the best parent to our children. Every day is a school day and there are no hard and fast rules because every child is unique and we’re simply learning on the job! God help us!


Images from NSPCC

5 comments on “Protecting our children from abuse – The PANTS rule

  1. Contrary to what you think, it is never too late to join this campaign. And its importance cannot be overemphasized. We should not pretend that it does not happen, it happens more than it is reported and prevention as they say is better than cure or in this case seeking redress. As parents there are many measures that we can take or rather there are many things that we leave undone and so we indirectly ‘abet’ abuse. I will be reblogging this and I already shred it on Facebook. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Ofcourse our kids should know the difference between privates n public parts by the time they Are 3. Most times yes, d predators r close family n frnd’s we entrust them with.

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