Now before you read this, I must stress that this is my personal opinion and if you’re not keen on child ear piercing then there is no point reading this post :-). I am aware some people have quite strong opinions on piercing a baby’s ears but I too have strong opinions which is why I’ve decided to write about it too!
Back home where I was born, Nigeria, piercing a baby’s ear is a ‘tradition’, sort of like the Naming Ceremony except it doesn’t require a party or anything like that. Infact it is done in the hospital literally as you’re taking your daughter home! It’s part of a girl’s identity and used to help identity baby girls from baby boys…
I understand it’s pretty much done everywhere in Africa too! At least that’s what some of my other African friends have told me… I had my done like this and I’ve never once wished I didn’t have an ear whole so I think it’s only fair I do the same for my little one.
So you can imagine my frustration when I asked one of the midwives here and it seemed like I had said a bad thing! She wasn’t overly judgemental but you could see that I was barking up the wrong tree if I was looking for more information about piercing my baby’s ears! In the end I spoke to a couple of mums I knew here and they all recommended Claire’s Accessories Uk.
So I made a call to Claire’s and was highly disappointed when they said Anjie had to have had all her vaccines by then! (We’ve had the first and second so waiting for the third one now). Basically, I have to wait till her 16 week vaccines and then add two weeks after that before she can get her ears pierced. So in other words I’m looking at 18 weeks or so! Not good I tell you!
It’s easier to do an ear piercing when the baby is very little as she doesn’t remember anything then and she hasn’t quite found her hands so she won’t be playing with the ear (Anjie pulls her hair right now so I know what I’m talking about!). I know to some it might seem crazy and all but it’s not done for vanity, it’s more for identity like I said earlier. And the sooner it’s done the better!
I’ve had a number of people back home automatically assume Anjie was a boy because she didn’t have any piercing in her ear! :-). It is that much of a tradition and something nobody thinks twice about, sort of like male circumcision.
Anyway, I will be posting a picture of her when I’ve finally done it in about a month’s time. I’m not looking forward to the pain she will go through, in fact I know it will break by heart (which is why I will be taking hubby for moral support!) but the sooner it is done the better… I just wish we could have done it much sooner though…
There! I have said it now, do you have any experience of piercing your baby’s ear in the UK? Would love to hear about it and give me courage! Lol…
And Happy April to everyone!